My BFF has been acting strangely; she not the same person, she’s different. We were out the other night and she downed three glasses of vodka red bull and then she snorted a line of cocaine. When I confronted her; she told me to piss off.
“…What are you doing?
Don’t you know this stuff is going to kill you?…”
“….I just don’t care anymore, I’d be better off dead, at least then the pain would stop…”
“…What’s the matter with you? Are you serious?…”
“….I don’t care, go ahead and kill yourself; see if I care…”
…Then the unthinkable happened….
Suicide is the the third most common cause of death in teenagers
Take them seriously:
Did you know that the third most common cause of death in teenagers is suicide. So if you mate or your besty tells you they want to end it all; take them seriously.
Look for the signs:
Common signs to look for: sadness, hopelessness, irritability anger, hostility, tearfulness frequent crying, withdrawal from friends, loss of interest in activities, changes in sleep and eating habits, fatigue, difficulties concentrating, alcohol and drug abuse, vocalising and joking about committing suicide, reckless behaviour leading to injury.
Fight with friends, victim of bullying especially cyber bullying, breakup with boyfriend or girlfriend, drug dependency, and history of depression and suicide.
Pay attention to any signs of depression and take any talk about suicide seriously; never assume they are seeking attention or that they maybe joking.
Take immediate action:
Let your mate know that you’re there for them, unconditionally, let them know that you are willing to provide whatever support they need.
Don’t give up on your mate; if they shut you out at first, keep trying, don’t give up be persistent. Talking about how they feel and about their feelings of depression can be very difficult if not impossible. Respect you friends feeling and emphasize your concerns and your willingness to listen without judging them.
Don’t judge, don’t criticise and once they open up to you about how and what they are feeling, avoid offering too much advice or giving them ultimatums.
Don’t try to talk them out of their depression, simply acknowledge their pain and their sadness, if you don’t they will feel that your aren’t taking their feelings seriously.
If they tell you they are going to commit suicide then under no circumstances leave them alone, you must call for help immediately; kids helpline, lifeline, parents, a local doctor can all help you and your friend.
If they attempt suicide call 000 emergency immediately.